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way across Zealand until we9re home, there are police at most of the
on and off-ramps on the highway. When we finally got home late at
night, we sat down to watch the news. We must see what happened.
We calm down a bit and are both able to sleep.
This whole episode, where I felt in danger, has, on several occasions,
brought back memories of my first marriage. As I briefly told you, I
was threatened with a hunting rifle. My husband at the time was a
psychopath or had psychopathic traits, I maintain. He engaged in
psychological terror, but so subtly that no one really believed it. I was
19 when I met him, and he was quite a bit older than me. A very
charismatic man.
My parents adored him, and I was often told that I should be grateful.
After all, I got a horse, a car, and we traveled. So, for several years, I
was grateful, all the while losing myself more and more. He
developed an alcohol problem and became increasingly cruel. He
wanted to decide what clothes I should wear when we went out, etc.
What I did right one day was wrong the next day. A mutual friend and
colleague told me one day that he was seriously worried about me.
He saw what my ex-husband was doing and told me I needed to get
out of there.
We lived on a property where I also had my horses, my dog, and my
cat. There were two living rooms, and I announced that I was moving
into one of them until I found a place to live. One night, he came into
the room where I was sleeping. I woke up to find him standing there
staring at me. The dog was lying at the foot of the bed. I saw he had
the rifle, and my first thought was just that he mustn9t shoot the dog.
I didn9t say anything; he stood there laughing. Then he went out, but
left the rifle unloaded in front of the door.
I left, but he pursued me for a long time afterward. It took most of a
couple of years before I was free of him. By then I had found my
Writing Letters as Therapy
Journal of Contemporary Narrative Therapy, October 2026 Special Release, p. 92-112
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