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Dear Lone,
Reflecting on your questions works quite well for me. Having to put it
down in writing gives me time to think things through, and many
memories come to mind. As your keen eye has surely already noticed,
I9ve cut and pasted parts of your reply and am using your questions
here to reflect and respond.
It makes me wonder if you could recall or reflect on—and perhaps
say something about—what the worst moment was in the first
episode, and what the worst moment was in the second episode?
I9ve thought a lot about what the worst moment was when I was
threatened with a gun. It9s very hard for me to answer that. What
comes to mind is that the humiliation started long before that
moment. Besides the fear, I also think I found a kind of stubbornness
(I didn9t want to show I was afraid); the fear was inside me, and it
couldn9t really get any worse. When he laughed, I took it as the most
humiliating thing—he thought I was nothing. I remember thinking
that he shouldn9t have control over me anymore. I don9t remember
what happened the next day. What I do remember is that I packed a
bag, which I hid. I had an agreement with a friend that I could move
in with her at any time. It took some time before I moved. I became
stubborn and wanted to decide for myself when I would move. Maybe
an attempt to preserve my self-respect!
At the Royal Arena, the worst part was that I was responsible for
Molly and dealing with the uncertainty. It was unsettling not knowing
anything, especially since it went on for hours.
What do you wish someone had done back when you were living on
the property and the incident with the hunting rifle happened?
I wish my parents had realized or noticed sooner how my ex-husband
was behaving. They focused on how well I was doing—I was spoiled
Writing Letters as Therapy
Journal of Contemporary Narrative Therapy, October 2026 Special Release, p. 92-112
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